God allows detours. We are given a freewill. Sometimes we totally miss the perfect will of God for our lives because we are distracted by our wants, needs and the cares of the world. Or perhaps we compare our lives to others. (A dangerous thing to do for it will bring either pride or discontent. Neither is a fruit of the Spirit. )
Last year Ray was having a hard time at the technical college where he taught truck driving. He had taught there for 10 years. He is a “by the book” type of person especially when it comes to the laws and safety guidelines that a truck driver must obey. He saw people being pushed through the classes to “keep the numbers up.” He thought this was irresponsible and he allowed it to eat his lunch. Also, out of the three instructors he was the only one required to train on the tarmac often in 100 plus degrees for six hours a day. It was too much.
He resigned. The day after he resigned his supervisor resigned. The one putting it all on him. (Should Ray have waited? Only God knows.)
He decided go back on the road working for FedEx. Understand we are in 70s and having him on the road was not how I envisioned our golden years.
However, I decided to support him even if he was wrong because he had supported me in some things I thought were of God.
A big for instance would be the time we went to Africa as missionaries. That sounds goof doesn’t it? However, when you leave behind a 20 year old daughter and new baby and no husband, it certainly wasn’t wisdom. She crahed within the year and we had to come home. It has taken years to restore the damage because I thought I heard God.
I needed to walk this out. If he was to be the head of our family, I needed to follow even if I felt wobbly. It was hard. He was often gone three weeks at a time. He was faithful to call several times a day to keep in touch and tell me he loved me. Still I didn’t think this was best scenario. I just kept going to the Father, not Ray. I tried very hard to never put guilt on him. My relationship with the Father grew in leaps and bounds. I changed.
Long story, short. Ray resigned after 15 months and is returning to the college this Monday. He will be working evenings so no 100 plus degrees. He will be working with more mature adults who generally have 9-5 jobs but want to better themselves instead of the kids who were in class to collect their grant.
Now the twister that he discovered yesterday. The evening position had been open for ONE YEAR. So that opens questions we have discussed:
Did Ray have to come to the end of himself before He saw it?
Did God hold the job for him until he was ready?
We don’t know, but we do know that this new position opens new doors in ways that money can’t buy. Although he will take a significant pay cut by leaving FedEx, we have every confidence our needs will be met “exceeding abundantly.”
Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us, Eph. 3:20
I share this story with you to say we don’t understand everything. Fear will drive us to control and manipulate and we will become bitter. When we trust Him, He has something to work with. Don’t focus on what your husband, your adult children, your boss or even your pastor is doing wrong that makes you feel unsafe. Instead run to the Father. Work on your relationship and allow him. to change your response to them. it will impact them in a way you never could.
Change your focus from what is wrong to what the Lord has already done. Praise Him for it.