Would You Tell a Lie to Help Someone Else?

As I continue to research lying, I found this article from Berkeley Haas that reported the way both  gender and social pressure drive unethical decisions. This study says “women won’t lie on their own behalf, but they are willing to do so for someone else if they feel criticized or pressured by others.

“In contrast, research by Prof. Laura Kray of UC Berkeley’s Haas School of Business and Asst. Prof. Maryam Kouchaki of Northwestern University’s Kellogg School of Management, found that men are the opposite: they do not compromise their ethical standards under social pressure regardless of whether they’re advocating for themselves or anyone else.

“We found that when women act on their own behalf, they maintain higher ethical standards than men. However, women will act less ethically, such as telling a lie, when they fear being viewed as ineffective at representing another person’s interests,” says Kray. “When women negotiate on behalf of someone else, they are willing to make compromises in order to satisfy the needs of others.”

“The study’s results may appear disturbing to women who are trying to do the right thing, but Kray contends that when considering whether to compromise one’s usual ethics, consider the particular situation. Women may be unaware that they have this tendency to lower their moral standards when trying to help others.

“Ask yourself, ‘What are the constraints and social pressures? If I was doing this for myself or someone else, how would I act differently,” says Kray.

Would you tell a lie to help someone else? A new study says women won’t lie on their own behalf, but they are willing to do so for someone else if they feel criticized or pressured by others. In contrast, the study, co-authored by Prof. Laura Kray, found that men are the opposite: they do not compromise their ethical standards under social pressure regardless of whether they’re advocating for themselves or anyone else.”

All too often  we put on our plastic smile, get out the door and go do what we gotta to. We have our outside box we operate in.

However, the word says, Christ in me, the hope of glory. What if I spoke what was on my heart. What if I spoke words of truth in love instead of being afraid of hurting someone or being politically correct. What if I shared words of life? Words of hope. What if I refused to listen to gossip which is often embellished lies.

What does Christ, the hope of glory look like in your life? In your words?

So what if you are vulnerable to someone’s lies about you, your family or even God? Would you rather have your life look like a to do list or a vibrant journey

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. Prov. 31:26
I praise God for the For My Life program at Be in Health. It helped me remove a lot of the things that were covering what God has in mind for my life. I am still in the discovery stage.
As I peel off layer upon layer of generational iniquities, self-righteousness, guilt, shame, lying, secrecy, I am finding the real me. I am finding my voice and I am learning to use it.
You are on assignment today. Will you be BRAVE, and speak words of life to someone and bring them that “Christ in you, the hope of glory”?

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